Let’s face it, relationships take work. If you want any kind of relationship in your life to grow, you must nurture it. However, when you run into problems, how do you know when it is time to go. How do you know when enough is really enough? As women , we tend to think that if we give more and more of our love and our attention , that is the answer. Well, that is where we must stop and reevaluate . If you are getting the same amount of attention and affection back, then ok , I say keep on going with that , for it is working for you. However, If you are not receiving the same amount of attention in return that you are giving, if you are not receiving the same affection in return, then stop. As simple as that, stop . Never give more out then what you are receiving back. There is where you will lose who you are. Never place so much attention and focus on someone who is not responding back.
So, how will you know when to leave? When you are not getting in return what you are giving. You must have enough respect for yourself, to leave any relationship that you are not happy in. Never settle for something that is not giving you what you want. That might sound a little selfish, but in order to keep your dignity in tact , you need to go for your own self. Believe me, it might not be easy at first , in fact it might be very hard, however, the more and more you don’t focus on what is not making happy, you gain yourself back. You will gain your confidence back.
I have said this before and I stand firmly by it. You must stand up for yourself, for when you do, the doubt and fear will diminish and the power within you will come forth.
When you are focusing so much on the other person, trying your hardest to make it work, and not getting the love back, you slowly start to lose your mind’s focus. It is then that you need to regain your focus, regain yourself, and walk away. Never let that person’s opinion of you determine your value. Just because they are not responding to your attempts, doesn’t mean another won’t. In fact when you do stand up for yourself, they might make you feel as it is your fault, even though you know it’s not. That is a form of control. Don’t let those kind of mind games get to you. Still, walk away, and don’t tolerate it. If they are not willing to do what it takes to keep you , then they don’t appreciate you , and you deserve better.
Here is an excerpt from my post You will Survive….
WHEN YOU STAND UP FOR YOURSELF, THE POWER IN YOU ARISES AND THE FEAR DIMINISHES.
Ladies, always wear your crown, head held high
Never down, put a smile on
Erase that frown, be strong women
Do not fear, do not lose hope
For your time is near..
For the sun will shine on you and you will discover your true strength within , and the past will be the past and you will move forward , and You will Survive.
Smile woman for the pain will go away
Smile woman for today is a new day
Smile woman for there is no one like you
Smile woman for someone will recognize that too
Smile woman and don’t lose hope
Smile woman and continue to rise up..
YOU WILL SURVIVE….
NO FEAR LEGGINGS